I am getting straight to the point here. Today’s challenge prompted us to leave comments on blogs we never commented on before. As always, with commenting I have one lingering conundrum. Some of you already know I run more than one blog. Given that fact, it’s safe to say I comment (or at least try to) on a regular basis. The conundrum is ever present: do I comment on the blogs that are similar to mine? Or do I spread my wings and comment on the blogs that interest me but don’t necessarily deal with the same topic?
On one hand, it’s all about expanding your community, getting to know like-minded people and forming relationships that might turn into real life friendships (stranger things have happened, believe me!), getting your name out there and growing your blog. It makes sense to focus on your topics of interest, if you are a mommy blog (nothing against mommy blogs! In fact I follow quite a few of them!) it makes sense to find other mommy blogs out there and connect with them. You have something in common. And that right there is how all relationships start. Just think about kindergarten. How did you meet other kids? I am willing to bet you socialized first with the kids who you could identify with, who shared something in common with you, even if you weren’t aware of it then. It doesn’t really make sense to start connecting with bloggers who blog about something completely unrelated like a blog dedicated to Sci-Fi or a blog dedicated to New Rock Alternative Music.
On the other hand, I have to agree with my husband, as well as a forum member who likes to spread their wings. We as humans, are not born with a one-track mind. We all have different interests, and we like to explore them and expand them. Why should we limit ourselves just to sticking with one interest? Why should we hinder our nature and our creativity at that by focusing on just other mommy blogs out there, or dog lover blogs out there or web design blogs…? Why shouldn’t you as a web design blog leave a comment on a mommy blog if you happen to be a mom, or dog lovers blog if you share the love for dogs?
The way I see it is something like this. Commenting is a way to grow your community. By following similar blogs, you are more likely to have visitors of those blogs or authors of those blogs to come visit yours and maybe stick around and comment and reciprocate the favor by sharing your blog with their readers. Bearing that in mind, why would a Sci-Fi oriented blog be interested in a dog lovers blog? Why would readers of a web design blog be interested in a mommy blog? As one forum member pointed it out, (thanks culturallife) we are also creature of habit and we tend to stick to what we know and love. So jumping over and following something completely unrelated to us may push us too far from our comfort zone. Sure you might dig that article about The Truth Behind Black Holes but will you become a regular reader of their blog? More importantly, how will your article Design A Killer Flat Website In PSD convince them to follow you?
I am torn between those two because I fully understand what my husband and ellieverse are saying. However, I am not entirely sure that would be beneficial to either one of the opposing blogs. I could be (and most likely) am wrong. I happen to be a creature of habit and comment on blogs similar to mine. I want to add value to them and to their readers. My other blog deals more with family life and specifics of our situation so I don’t really see me commenting on a blog like Copyblogger, even though I enjoy their articles and read them quite frequently, because I don’t think their audience would be interested in that particular topic.
In the end, we all have our own ways of commenting and connecting with other bloggers. The most important thing to take away from all of this rambling is that there is no rule set in stone where you should comment. It’s all a matter of personal choice and preference. The relationship you form, and the community you make should be the ultimate reward.